Well hello blog world! I am sorry that it has taken me so long to update my blog. I will try to do better. I feel like I have a good excuse though since I just got back last Sunday from the most amazing trip to Australia! Seriously a dream come true and one of the best vacations I have ever had! I will have to post some pictures and give you the highlights some time soon!
While on my trip with my friends, Carrie and Emily, we had some interesting conversations to say the least. Some of them with drunk people on the train (Emily and Carrie, insert drunk lady's dirty quote here), Aussies on the street, and some just with each other. There is one conversation that sticks out to me and has left me thinking about it more and more. Carrie and Emily told me about their theory of the The Reacher and The Settler. They explained it me that there is always someone in a relationship that reaches to snag someone way better than anyone would expect them to or better than they deserve and then there is the settler who settles for someone beneath their potential. Now I am not sure if I agree completely with it since I have so many amazing friends that married the most amazing people, but it does have some merit I think in certain situations.. I know there are some people I see and I think how on earth did they end up together? What does he see in her? Or why would she put up with that? Well, one reached and one settled. I tend to think that some of the men and women that settle do it on purpose. They like the control and want to have someone who reached (and knows they did) so that person feels lucky enough to be with the person that they will just bend to the settlers will and like what they like and do what they want. Then it got me thinking do more men or women settle? Interesting thought. Not sure on the answer. I personally prefer to reach and find someone who when I am with them, I want to be a better person and it makes me want to reach higher for both of us. But I do see so many people settling. Maybe it's easier than being alone, I don't know. There are worse things than being alone though. So let me pose this question to all of you, are you a reacher or a settler? Do you believe this theory even has merit? Please let me know what your thoughts are and don't worry you can be honest. Which are you or are you one of those amazing friends I just talked about that married someone just as amazing as you? :)